To be completely honest, most of the wedding details have been planned since the beginning of Mr. Incredible and I’s engagement. The table linens we ordered have been in boxes in the small bedroom for months now. We ordered a black and white damask overlay to go over white table linens and tea rose pink table runners to go down the center of each table. Our table décor will look similar to this:
(Image taken from theknot.com, I believe.)
Of course there will be some differences. For example, we’ll have the tea rose pink table runner going down the tables at our reception. We will also have roses made out of tea rose pink napkins in the champagne classes on the reception tables. They will look similar to this:
(Taken from marthastewart.com)
Isn’t the table décor beautiful? What type of décor did you have on your tables? What décor do you think you’d like to have when you get married?
My mom has been a big help with planning the wedding and seeing to it that everything gets accomplished. I still get a say in everything, I just do not have the time to put everything together. I honestly do not know how the wedding planning would get done if it weren’t for her. Although it is heartrending that due to my work schedule I do not have much time to plan my own wedding, I know the plans are in good hands and I am very thankful to have the mother that I do.
I’ve already mentioned that the bouquets were ordered, I believe my brother ordered them as a gift. I’m very grateful that he ordered the most beautiful bouquet for me and the rest of my bridal party. My bouquet looks like this:
(I took this from my mom’s Facebook page; I’m not sure where she got it. If credit belongs to you please let me know and I’ll give proper credit for the picture)
I absolutely love my bouquet! The bouquets of my bridesmaids are smaller versions of mine, I believe.
While I’m on the topic of flowers, my mother is putting together the flower arrangements! She has also been putting many other wedding décor details, which I’ll do a post about when I have time to take some pictures. The flower arrangements will look like this:
The finished printed invitations arrived and have already been put together in the pocketfold initiations I ordered when I was planning on designing my own invitations. My mother put them together and her and Mr. Incredible are designing and printing the menus and programs. I am so glad I have both of them to take care of wedding details.
Finally, the bridal party is now bigger than it was originally. We’ve added two flower girls! Their dresses have been ordered and pictures will be posted soon. I will be doing a post soon with information regarding the bridal party additions and updates.
My inspiration comes from many individuals. My initial response, after reading today’s topic, was “my future children are my inspiration. They are what motivate me to work hard. They are what is driving me to research career opportunities I can do from home someday, while earning a salary that allows us to live comfortably, while I’m home caring for them. They are what motivate me to maintain a high grade point average and to be successful. They are what motivate me.”
My mother is also another source of inspiration. For her whole life she has taken care of multiple families, in addition to her own. She is a strong, independent, compassionate, driven, opinionated woman and the most amazing mother I could have asked for. She has a heart of gold and is always doing things for everyone out of the goodness of her heart. People take advantage of her because she does things out of the goodness of her heart and they turn the things she does into negative things, but she keeps on doing things out of the goodness of her heart. My mother’s independence, drive, heart of gold, and strength are all qualities to be admired. It is these qualities that are inspiring, because not many women are like my mother. I have yet to meet anyone like her and I can only hope to be the kind of woman my mother is. She is something every woman should be inspired to be like.
My soon to be husband, Mr. Incredible (as I call in him my blog), is also a source of inspiration. He always sees the positive in every situation and is very optimistic. He has pulled me up through many downs over the last six years and he is always there encouraging me and believing in me. Mr. Incredible is very outgoing, whereas I’m shy a lot of the time. His heart is filled with so much love. I never knew a man could love the way he loves me. I’m very blessed to have Mr. Incredible in my life and I thank God for him every single day. His optimism, people skills, and his heart are inspiring and things to be admired.
The last few weeks have been hectic. I’ve been super busy with coursework, work, and wedding planning. I’m done with classes for the next month or so now, so I’ll have time to update the blog more often. Over the past week or so we’ve accomplished many wedding planning “to dos” that we’ve had on our list.
We’ve finally booked a DJ! After weeks of trying to find the time to speak and meet with DJs, my mother took it upon herself to do, she spent a whole day researching DJs and calling to speak with them. She found one that she really liked and that was very professional and who also had amazing reviews. When I got home from work she showed me his website. I talked to Mr. Incredible about it and he wasn’t quite sure because he actually wanted to meet with him. Well, the next day DJs started calling my mother back with their pricing and honestly their prices were ridiculous for the short time period we’d need them from. The DJ my mother liked was very reasonably priced and with the wedding being only six months away we had to make a decision fast, so we ended up booking this DJ!
We’ve had many wedding related items arrive in the mail over the last few weeks. The cake stands started to arrive the other day. The cake stand that arrived is silver and vintage; it is for our main wedding cake. We’ve also ordered my dresses for the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and Sunday brunch. They are gorgeous! I can’t wait to post pictures of them for everyone to see!
The invitations have been ordered. I’ve mentioned that I planned on designing and assembling them myself, but with my nonstop work schedule and online coursework on top of that, there is no way that I’d be able to do them. Therefore, the invitation and all the inserts were ordered a few days ago and I cannot wait to see the finished product! I have pictures of the invitation proofs, but I’m going to wait until the finished invitations arrive to take pictures and post them.
The bouquets have also been ordered! They’re gorgeous!
The bridal shower date is not scheduled yet, but I believe everyone is trying to plan it for the last Sunday in May. The only reason that it is not scheduled yet is because a restaurant has not yet been picked and booked. Everyone is hoping to have a restaurant booked soon. When I know more, I’ll be sure to update everyone.
Over the weekend Mr. Incredible, my brother (Best Man), Scott (Bridal Party Member), and my father all went to pick out tuxes. Picking out the tuxes did not take as long as I thought it would. I’m glad I went with the guys though because I love what I picked out!
Mr. Incredible will be wearing the same thing as the groomsmen, except that his dress shirt will be black. Everyone else will be wearing white dress shirts. We chose to go with normal ties, I cannot stand bowties!
I had a fun time watching the guys get measured for their tuxes and getting input from everyone on vest and tie coloring choices. Our wedding colors are black, white, and tea rose pink. Therefore we could have picked any of those colors for the ties and vests, but everyone agreed that the tea rose pink was the way to go.. I picked a two button design over a single button design, for some reason I like the two button design better.
Here is the entire look for the gentlemen:
(Taken from my group manager at MensWarehouse.com)
A few weeks ago I received a call from the bridal shop informing me that my dress came in early from the designer. The first weekend that I had planned on going to see my dress there was a big snow storm that made me unable to make the hour drive to go see it. I finally was able to go see it on Saturday! My gown turned out gorgeous!
The dresses that the bridal party picked out did not go well with my dress. The dresses they picked out were two toned black and white and short. Now, the dresses that the bridal party had originally picked out were not what I would have picked, I would have picked a solid color and long dress, but everyone has a different body shape and I wanted my bridesmaids comfortable. So we ended up picking the dress they all agreed on. Well, when the bridal shop called me about my dress being in, they asked if I wanted them to send the bridesmaid dress orders out. I told them to hold off until I came to see my dress.
This is along the lines of the dress I would have picked for my bridesmaids:
My bridal party has changed somewhat. So when I went to look at my dress on Saturday my new Bridesmaid, Katie, came to the bridal shop with my mother and I. If I was going to change the bridesmaid dresses this was the last chance I was going to get, so I changed the dresses. I’m tired of making everyone else happy. My wedding day should be able me being happy. So Katie tried on a ton of dresses and we picked one. The new dresses are long and tea-rose pink and I could not be happier about them!
I am so excited to announce that From Marriage to Motherhood has been awarded the Versatile Blogger Award, by Just Another Blogger Mom! Thank you so much Nichole for awarding From Marriage to Motherhood it’s first ever award!!! It means a lot!! You guys should head on over to her blog and take a look around and read her blog entries.
Recipients of this award are asked to:
1.Thank the person that nominated their blog for the award with a backlink to them.
2.List 7 things about themselves.
3.Award 15 newly discovered blogs with the award and notify them of the award.
7 Things about Myself:
1.I love children
2.My biggest dream is to be the best wife and mother I can be someday
3.I love movies
4.I met Mr. Incredible (My soon to be hubby) on Myspace when I was 15 years old
5.I wear my heart on my sleeve
6.I do not have a best friend, other than Mr. Incredible
7.I would love to start working from home, so that when Mr. Incredible and I start a family I can be at home with our children, while they are young at least. I eventually want to be a Equity Portfolio Manager after I get all the schooling required for that done.
And now for the fun part!! I am giving the Versatile Blogger Award to....
As of this past Tuesday (yesterday), Mr. Incredible (my soon to be hubby) and I have been together for six years! Over the last six years we’ve not only made memories with one another, that I will cherish forever, but we’ve also grown with one another and as a couple. Mr. Incredible has made the past six years the best years of my life and I cannot wait to see what the future has in store for us.
I remember the day he asked me to go out with him like it was yesterday. The first time I went over to his house we watched a movie and he asked me out. We’ve been inseparable ever since then. We went to different schools, so while we were still in high school we only saw each other on weekends and Tuesdays after school. It was always difficult for us being apart so much but we talked, texted, and IMed every single day. I really think that because we did not get to see each other much in the beginning that it helped us learn to communicate with one another. During breaks from school and over the summers we were together every day. Since we started college we’ve spent every day and night together, except when I worked overnights.
Now we work opposite shifts. I’m gone for work from 5am-7pm and he leaves for work at 2:15pm and is gone until anywhere from 1-3am. We do get a couple hours to sleep and snuggle together before I have to get up and get ready for work, but it’s not always easy for me to wake up to talk when he gets home and climbs into bed. So Monday-Saturday morning we mostly talk through text, on Facebook, or via phone.
I’m very blessed to have found Mr. Incredible. He is always there to soothe my fears, wipe away my tears, encourage me, support me, and push me to continue doing what I’m doing when I sometimes feel like giving up. He was my first boyfriend and not many people find their other half as soon as we found each other. God has a plan for everyone and I’m very thankful that he made Mr. Incredible part of his plan for me.
I’m looking forward to what God has in store for us in the future and cannot wait until the day I get to call Mr. Incredible my husband!
P.S. On another note, I’ve been very busy with school and work and have not had much time to blog the last couple of days. I know that my blog received an award and as soon as I have the time I will post a thank you and give the award to other blogs.
Topic of the day: Something mischievous I did as a child
To be completely honest I had a hard time coming up with something mischievous I did as a child. My brother and I were very well behaved children, me more than him. I could not think of one mischievous thing I did as a child but I came up with a bunch of mischievous things my younger brother did. When we’re all sitting around as a family or just talking sometimes stories from when we were children are told and retold; I swear I’ve heard them all at least a billion times. One of my favorite stories is the one about my brother cutting a hole in the window screen and telling my mom that he did it “to let more air in.” Another one of my favorite stories about the mischievous things my brother did as a child is the story of how he used our mom’s lipstick and made a perfectly lined up boarder of kisses on a wall while she was taking a nap. Now is that really mischievous or is it a really sweet thing he did?
Okay, after taking a walk down memory lane I’ve remembered one mischievous thing I did as a child, I was an older child though when I did it. I hid in my mom’s closet or behind the house, until my mom left for the day, in order to skip school, for two weeks straight. I had a reason for doing it, but that’s not an excuse. Preschool-High School was the worst for me, I was always taller than everyone else and because of it everyone made my life at school difficult. I was harassed, teased, threatened, ECT. It got so bad at one school that I ended up transferring to another school the middle of my freshman year. Can you believe the person who was behind the reason I had to transfer was the daughter of my Grandpa’s girlfriend at the time?! I would come home every day crying for all those years. Although I missed a lot of school over those years, you could not pay me to miss a college class. I have not missed one single class since I started college.
What is something you did as a child that was mischievous?
I’m back to work today after a ten day vacation and to be completely honest I’m glad to be back! I was sick with a sore throat most of my vacation and with the way I was feeling I could not even fathom the thought of writing a blog entry. I’m feeling somewhat better this morning and am excited to get back into the swing of things. The first thing I need to get back into the swing of is waking up so early. For the last ten days I’ve been sleeping in with my soon to be hubby.
This morning started off a little rough. My soon to be hubby woke me up at 3am this morning, when he got home from work, by turning on his computer. I’m very sensitive to light and woke up immediately. Sometimes if I’m in a deep sleep when he gets on the computer I won’t wake up, but the majority of the time I do. I ended up getting up then to go to the restroom and take some medicine for my sore throat, it really helped. With two hours left to go until my alarm clock was going to go off, I had a hard time falling back asleep. I eventually did though.
After I woke up and was ready to leave for work I started scraping off my car and I ended up slipping on the ice in the driveway. I landed on my left knee, which hurt terribly, and three fingers on my right hand were scratched and started bleeding. I didn’t have time to deal with cleaning the scrapes or dealing with my knee, so I picked myself up off the driveway, put gloves on my hands, and started heading to work. My knee stopped hurting by the time I arrived at work, but when I got out of my car my back was killing me.
My bosses arrived back home from Hawaii last night, so first thing this morning I asked one of my bosses how their trip went. We talked for a few minutes and then I decided that with the wedding being less than seven months away that it was time to tell them that I’m getting married, they already knew I was engaged. I just haven’t felt ready to tell them we set a date. Actually, a date was set before I was even hired. I’ll be telling my other boss as soon as he arrives.
I’ll be in my new contract around the time of the wedding; I believe we go to renew the contract at the end of June. So I’m hoping we can negotiate and add a few things in. With our first contract, the one I’m in now, I get five paid sick days, which I’m not going to use, I’m hoping I can roll at least a couple of them over to the new contract so that for the wedding I can take off the Thursday and Friday before the wedding and the Monday after it and still have paid sick days left.
What type of things would you negotiate into a contract? Would you go along with something your bosses want in your contract if you didn’t agree with it in order to keep your job?
Today is exactly 7 months until the soon to be hubby and I say “I do!” I cannot believe how fast time has been flying by! It seems like just yesterday we were eating red velvet cake with butter pecan ice cream and I was being proposed to!
There are so many things that still need to be done for the wedding. I received a call from the Bridal Shop the other day and my dress is already in from the designer, it wasn’t supposed to be in until February. My mom and I are planning to go see it on Saturday so I can try it on and see what it looks like because the sample one I tried on was not the color I wanted. I’m very excited to see my dress! Also, when I go on Saturday hopefully my junior bridesmaid will be able to go so she can get her measurements taken and a dress ordered. I’m going to have the shop send the bridesmaid dress orders in on Saturday.
We still need to book a DJ! That is something I’d like to accomplish over my vacation from work! I think the soon to be hubby and I are going to have to sit down and talk about it tomorrow morning/afternoon before he leaves for work. A friend of his, who got married not too long ago, recommended a DJ. I think we’ll be giving him a call.
Also, with the amount of time I’m gone at work and with classes being added on to my plate, I’m just not sure I’m going to have the time to assemble our invitations myself! I already have all the supplies and everything! I’m hoping that the printing company that we went through to have our save the date, that we designed, printed would be able to use the supplies to assemble our invitations. I would have loved to do them myself, but unfortunately, I’m just not going to have the time. I’ll keep everyone updated on what I decided to do about the invitations.
What is a good song to dance to for the first dance? What song did you dance to at your wedding (if you’re already married)?
C. Chore you dislike: Doing the dishes by hand… I absolutely hate putting my hands in the dirty water.
D. Dogs: We have two of them
E. Essential start to your day: A tinkle, and a small speedway fountain Diet Mountain Dew. I’ve cut down on caffeine a lot! A 32oz fountain pop is the only caffeine I drink during the day now! The rest of the day it’s water or water with flavor packets in it.
F. Favorite color: Teal and pink.
G. Gold or silver: Gold.
H. Height: 5' 10"
I. Instruments you play(ed): I couldn’t play an instrument if my life depended on it. The soon to be hubby on the other hand has gold cups from playing piano =].
J. Job title: I wish my job title was just Wife, Mommy, and Homemaker. It’ll be wife soon in addition to my title for work. Hopefully someday soon it’ll only be Wife, Mommy, and Homemaker. Possibly even the title of Work at Home Mom.
K. Kids: None yet, soon though!
L. Live: The Suburbs, The town I grew up in.
M. Mom’s name: Kimberly
N. Nicknames: Jordie, JoJo. Hopefully those nicknames will be gone after the soon to be hubby and I get married about I start going by my middle name, Marie, instead of my first name.
O. Overnight hospital stays: I’ve never stayed overnight in the hospital.
P. Pet peeves: I have a lot. Loud music, it makes my headaches worse and makes me sick when I’m in the car. People lying, I don’t understand why they do it. People peeing on the seat in public places and not cleaning it up after themselves. I mean, come on people we are ADULTS. If you get some on the seat, clean it up.
Q. Quote from a movie: “Life’s like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get.”
S. Siblings: 1 younger brother.
T. Time you wake up: Very early to make the hour drive to work.
U. Underwear: Yes, I wear it.
V. Vegetables you don’t like: I love veggies!
W. What makes you run late: If someone is in the bathroom at the early hour I wake up for work, when I’m supposed to be getting ready.
X. X-rays you’ve had: On my teeth!
Y. Yummy food you make: Well, with being gone for over 12-15 hours a day because of work I rarely cook right now. We mostly order out, pick something up, or someone else makes the food because I have to get right to sleep when I get home so I can wake up again a few hours later to go back into work. I survive off of cereal for breakfast at work, a protein bar and shake at work for lunch, and then something small for dinner. After we get married things will be different though.
Today was a very productive day for me. I’m on vacation from work until the 18th, which I think is absolutely wonderful because I’m normally gone for work for over 12 hours a day! This leaves me absolutely no time to get anything done and with the winter semester for my online classes just starting, a vacation from work is just what I needed.
Before my vacation started I made a list of things that I need to get done and so far I’ve only accomplished three things. I’ve only been on vacation for two days now though, so I think I’m doing extremely well. In my last post I talked about how the soon to be hubby and I spent an entire day cleaning our room and moving furniture around, well that was on my list of things to accomplish over my vacation. Relating to our room, I still have to clean out my dresser and get rid of any clothes that I have not worn in a while and organize everything that I’m keeping. I would also like to get my closet and the closet in the little room completely cleaned out and organized.
Today my mom and I set out to tackle another to do on my list, change the old reception venue to the rehearsal brunch location and pick the menu. We left this morning after I made the soon to be hubby breakfast while he was doing his homework before he left for work. Changing the venue to the location of our rehearsal brunch instead of our reception was not as big of a hassle as I thought it was going to be. It was actually pretty easy to do and did not take as much time as I thought it was going to. The rehearsal brunch is booked for Thursday August 9th, 2012 from 12pm-3pm and straight from there we’ll be going to the rehearsal that starts at 4pm. We even picked the menu for the brunch while we were there! The menu for the brunch will be discussed in an entry later on after the brunch, when I can actually post pictures of everything.
There are many other things that I have listed on my vacation to do list including going to get my hair done, working on getting the website for the maternity concierge business I’m launching up and running, find a new dentists, and a few more things relating to the wedding.
Yesterday was a very busy day for the soon to be hubby and I. We did a serious deep cleaning and remodel of our bedroom. It took us all day from the time we woke up until dinnertime to complete. We have so much more room in our bedroom now, it’s ridiculous. Who knew that after a deep cleaning and moving furniture around that we’d have so much more room? We have more room and we added furniture, how does that work? The soon to be hubby now has a dresser, I have the tall dresser and he has the short long dresser that holds our 50 inch plasma on top.
On top of moving furniture around and cleaning, my mom bought us new bedding that is absolutely gorgeous! I love the bedding she bought us! It has light and dark roses on it with the word “Love” written on it.
(Excuse the messy nightstand… I am a college student you know, so my books go on the nightstand right next to my bed... Also, the curtains for our bedroom window have not arrived yet).
Look at the details on our new bedding, isn’t it gorgeous?!
We all have a place we like to go, or something we like to do, when we need time to think and regroup. My “Special” place would have to be a long and relaxing hot bubble bath. When I’m stressed or upset and need time to think and regroup, this is where I go. I find the warmth of the water, the smell of the bubble bath and bath salts, and the feel of the bubbles against my skin to be very relaxing. The bathtub is a place where I can be alone and reflect on the activities of the day.
Some of us may need coffee or caffeine daily to be able to fully function. Before I cut down on caffeine I was one who needed an abundance of it daily. I’ve gone without caffeine for the last seven days now and I’ve been able to fully function without it. Although, sitting trying to concentrate on getting my reading for my online classes done has proven to be difficult without it.
The only thing that I need daily now is the love and support of my family and soon to be hubby. This is all I need to get me through the day. My family and soon to be hubby and their encouragement, support, and love are the most important things I need daily. If I have these things then nothing else matters for the day.
Over the Holiday season there were only a few big purchases that were made, all of which I believe should have been made. My brand new GMC Acadia being one of them. A bigger vehicle was a necessity, especially with the Michigan winter weather conditions and my hour drive to work. I’m not a truck person and I’m definitely not a minivan type of woman. I wanted a crossover family vehicle with third-row seating, something that I would be comfortable driving. Also, over the Holiday season Eugene and I both pitched in and bout a 50 inch plasma television for our room and a DSLR camera. We did not have a television in our room before we bought our plasma television. The DSLR camera is something we bought at the midnight sale at Walmart for Black Friday. We absolutely love our camera, although, I have not had time to learn to use it.
Due to our upcoming wedding, our families decided not to go all out for Christmas. Christmas is not about going all out on gifts, it is about spending time with the ones who are dear to you. As a family we all sat down and ate dinner together, played cards, and conversed. Our holiday was simple and because we did not go all out and since we did not have new “toys” to try out and mess with, we actually spent more time together as a family.
Never mind searching for who you are. Search for the person you aspire to be. ~Robert Brault
There are many times that I feel lost, like I’m not sure of the path I’m suppose to take and what route I’m suppose to take to get there. I’m sure many people feel this way at one time or another. How do we become the individual we aspire to be? I’m not sure of the answer; I know the person that I aspire to be and the goals that I aspire to accomplish, I’m just not sure how to get there. Do I actively search for ways to become who I aspire to become? Or do I trust that God and life will eventually lead me there? I’ve been praying a lot lately for guidance, to show me what I’m supposed to do from here, and for strength, so that I can be strong enough not to give up on finding the path to becoming the person I aspire to be.
Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans. - John Lennon
Honestly, I have never considered making a bucket list. There are only a few things in life that matter enough to me to be put on a list of things I would like to do before I die.
1. Become a wife
2. Become a mother and be the best mother I can be
3. See my children grow up
4. Own a home
5. Be able to see my grandchildren
6. Graduate college
Like I’ve said before, all I’ve ever wanted and all I want is to be a wife and mother. Those are the two most important things that I want to accomplish. Becoming a wife will be crossed off my bucket list come August, since I’ll be getting married on August 11th! Graduating college is not too far off for me now, if I stick to my major and stop changing it. I’ve had a hard time sticking to a major because nothing I take up interest me enough, I truly believe that I keep changing my major because all I’m ever going to want to be is a wife and mother and nothing I’ve majored in has made me happy. I’m currently majoring in finance, which I think I’m going to stick too because there are many things from home that I’ll be able to do with a finance degree.
As for owning a home, Eugene and I have been discussing us owning a home a lot. He’ll be done with his degree in June, a few months before our wedding. I however have at least another year or year and a half to go. Although I am making more now than many people with a degree make, I think we should wait until I’m done with my degree. I’d love to own a home now. I want to be able to host dinner parties a few times a month and invite neighborhood women over for Sunday brunch. My time to be able to do these things will come.
I want to wish everyone a Happy New Year! May your year be filled with happiness, health, and wealth! I’m eager to see what God has in store for my soon to be husband and I. I have a feeling that 2012 is going to bring us many blessings. 2012 is going to be a busy year for us, with the wedding almost exactly only seven months away.
The months of January and February are always a really busy time of the year for us. In January, we celebrate my future mother-in-law’s birthday, Eugene and I’s anniversary (January 24th will be our six year anniversary!), and this year on January 29th it will be exactly one year since Eugene proposed to me. Then in February, we have Valentine’s Day and Eugene’s Birthday. Also in February this year Eugene and I will be going to do our registry for the wedding.
With it being only two days into 2012, I’m sticking to my resolutions. I’ve cut down on caffeine, I’m only drinking one can of pop a day compared to the over 100 ounces of it I was drinking before. Personally, I would say that I’m doing very well with sticking to this resolution. I have not yet experienced any caffeine withdrawal symptoms, which is helping make cutting down a lot easier. I’ve also begun looking into churches to find a church that Eugene and I can become a part of and raise our future family in, which is also a resolution of mine for 2012. A church that we’re both very interested in actually has a “first-connect” dinner on January 20th, for individuals who are interested in the church and obtaining more information. I plan on attending; unfortunately Eugene will be at work. I will be rushing from work to get to the dinner. I work an hour away from home and the church is another 15-20 minutes away, so from work it is going to take me an hour and twenty minutes to get to the dinner. I’ve already spoken to my bosses about the “first-connect” dinner that I would like to attend, so I can for sure be out of work in time to attend. I’ve been diligently working on launching my business and trying to find work from home opportunities, I will be able to accomplish more on my week long break from work that is coming up soon. As you can tell, I’m on the ball with my resolutions and I’m set on sticking to them until completion.
In addition to the resolutions I blogged about in my resolutions entry, a new resolution I would like to accomplish is to increase the frequency of my blog entries and to enhance their quality. There are many blog entries that I will be writing this year, some entries that I’m working on now though will not be posted until after the wedding, which is seven months away. Stay tuned for those entries :).
What are your resolutions for 2012? How are you doing on sticking to them 2 days into 2012?
With the New Year being only days away now, I’ve been seriously thinking about and considering what my resolutions for the upcoming year should be. The New Year is going to bring about many changes in my life and there are many goals that I would like to accomplish and changes that I would like to make.
One change that 2012 will bring to my life is that on August 11th I will become Mrs. Yevgeniy (Eugene) Slesarenko! I will become a wife and I’m ecstatic. For as long as I can remember I’ve dreamed of becoming a wife and mother, it is all I’ve wanted (and talked about) for so long and in August it is finally happening! Eugene and I have practically lived like we’re married for years now, seeing as how we’ve almost been together for six years, but I’m excited about having the title “Wife.” I honestly believe that Eugene and I were born in the wrong era. When I picture myself as a wife and mother, I picture my life like things use to be back in the day-vacuuming in pearls and high heels, being home cooking, raising babies, cleaning, having dinner parties, throwing Sunday brunches with the neighborhood women and hosting book club sessions in my home. My goal for this year is to be the best wife that I can be, if I didn’t work so much it would be so much easier for me to be way more domestic.
Another goal that I’m set on accomplishing in 2012 and that I hope the New Year will bring to my life is the chance for me to be able to work from the comfort of my own home. Although I’m in the process of launching my Maternity Concierge business, until it is launched I would like to find something that I can do from home. I’ve always loved writing, so maybe I can look into doing a little freelance writing for blogs, websites, ect. Working from home will allow me to live my dream and be able to do all the things listed in the paragraph above. Therefore, for the year 2012 I would like to begin working from home. No more twelve hour days, no more hour drive to work and two hour drive home (due to traffic), no more going days without seeing my soon to be hubby because I’m always working.
With the changes that the New Year is going to bring, there are many goals that I would like to accomplish and changes that I would like to make. One goal that is really important to me and that I would really like to accomplish is, finding a church that Eugene and I can raise our children in. This has been important to me for some time now. Although I have not attended church since I was a child, due to something that happened in the church to upset my parents (I won’t go into discussing it any further because it is a very upsetting and unchristian-like thing that the Pastor did to another member of the church) and due to the negative experiences I encountered when I tried to find a church, at the beginning of the wedding planning process, that Eugene and I could become a part of, marry in, and raise our children in. Finding a church is something that I vow to do before 2012 comes to an end. Not only do I want to find a church to raise our children in, but I want to find a church with members around our age who we can connect with in bible study groups. Lately I’ve also felt the need to find a church so that I can be spiritually closer to God.
Finally, in addition to the above something else that I would like to accomplish in 2012 is to cut down drastically on pop. I drink a lot of Diet Mountain Dew and Sprite Zero during the day and my goal starting on January 1st is to stop drinking pop altogether.
What resolutions do you have set for the New Year?
For a while now, I have not been able to get motivated to do any wedding planning. For weeks I’ve been thinking that we could have planned things differently, not so extravagant and over the top pricewise. The way we had things planned, our wedding was running around $27,000 with almost seven months still left to go until the wedding. This was a fact that I was not very happy with, especially because that money could be used for other things. I mean, our wedding is ONE day! Yes, our wedding day is going to be a very important, special, and memorable day for us, but it would be that way no matter what because our wedding day is about us; it is not about pleasing anyone else. I would be happy just having a small ceremony with our immediate family there.
After looking at the big picture, taking into account the things that Eugene and I both want after we’re married, spending that kind of money for only eight hours of a day just seemed ridiculous to us. We don’t want to start our marriage off in debt; we don’t want to start a family in debt and we plan on starting a family soon after we get married. We could put some of the money away in order for us to make a down payment on a house or some of that money could be used for us to go on a week-long vacation when Eugene has two weeks off of work in September. Don’t get me wrong, the wedding is still going to cost a lot, but we’re at a price now that I’m comfortable with and choosing to go a smaller, more intimate route has made me happier and has motivated me to get back into getting planning done. By going a smaller route, we had to change the reception venue and cut down the guest list. Our original reception site was chosen fast and without thought, because the place I had my heart set on having the ceremony and reception fell through and we just picked another location. I’m glad the first place I had my heart set on fell through, otherwise I would not have come across Heavenly Scents Herb Farm, which I love and is absolutely beautiful for our ceremony! Our new reception site is Lucky’s, Eugene and I’s favorite restaurant, in their Banquet room. Eugene and I eat at Lucky’s every chance we get. Now, this is a reception site that has meaning and is special to us. Lucky’s is going to be a great place for us to have our reception because not only is the food AMAZING, but we are still able to have a DJ and everything. In addition to that, Lucky’s is right next to a hotel for our out-of-town guest.
You may be wondering why I’m happy about cutting down the guest list, well… This way our wedding is more intimate, with just family and a few friends. I would like to cut the list down to 60-70 people, since I have a big family we cannot do any less than that. I don’t want people that Eugene and I do not know there. I don’t want people there who are going to sit at the tables saying things like, “I bet they don’t even last a year,” when we’ve already been together for almost six years, since I was fifteen years old. To be completely honest, I only want people there who actually care about Eugene and I. I believe that this is how a wedding should be; it should not be about inviting EVERYONE you know just so that you’ll get a gift. A wedding should be about celebrating a joyous occasion with those that are closest to you.
As for the menu, Eugene and I have not discussed that yet seeing as how we just changed venues a few days ago. I’ve looked over the menu and have decided to have Prime Rib as one of the options for guest to choose from. I believe we get three options and each option comes with a salad, a starch, and a vegetable. I believe in addition to Prime Rib we may choose a chicken dish. All I know for sure at the current time is that I do not want to have fish at the wedding. I’m not a fish fan at all.
There are other wedding details that have changed too. Now, instead of doing a dinner for the rehearsal, we are having a rehearsal brunch before the actual rehearsal. I’m thinking the brunch will be from 12-3pm and then straight from there we’ll go to the ceremony site for the rehearsal, which is still at 4pm on Thursday August 9th.
In an earlier Blog Entry, Dreams, Goals, and Aspirations vs Economic Feasibility and the Opinions of Others, I talked about how I dream of being a stay at home mom someday, who happens to work from home. Well, that dream just isn’t going to be handed to me. It’s something that I’m going to have to work hard to make a reality. With this in mind, I jumped right into researching work from home opportunities that would not only allow me to work from home, but also allow me to replace my current income. Initially, I was hoping to get something started from home before March 2012. While doing research, I found a few freelance writing jobs that I was interested in. I created a resume and a sample writing piece and applied for one of them, only to be turned down for a position. What was their reasoning? “It’s a competitive market, and there are more people applying for freelance jobs than there are jobs.” Thinking back on it, even though I have expertise in the area I was applying to write for, I do not have any professional freelance writing experience. Sure, I was disappointed and to be honest, a little discouraged when I got the rejection e-mail. I saw the job opportunity as a way to make my dream a reality, so naturally when I did not get the job I saw my dream going up in smoke, not being able to be made into reality in the timeframe I’d like. This put me in a funk for two days. The day I got the reject letter, I ended up crying myself to sleep and the day after I felt depressed. I started reading the blogs of other women for inspiration and looking up quotes that would inspire me again, and this is what brought me out of the funk that I was in. I realized that if other women could do it, then so could I. I realized that overcoming this bump in the road, on the way to making my dream a reality, is a necessary step towards reaching my dream at the end of the road.
With these realizations in mind, I’m determined to revamp my resume and write an even better sample writing piece and reapply for the writing job, the one that brought on the discouragement t that I’ve felt for the last couple of days. Therefore, over my Christmas break from my current job I will be writing a piece to submit when I apply again. I’m not going to take “No” for an answer; I know that I’m a good enough writer to be offered a freelance position with this particular company.
In addition, for over a year and a half now I’ve been talking about launching a Maternity Concierge (Baby Planning) consulting business. Working with mothers and their infants is where my heart is; it’s what I love to do. It is what I’m passionate about. With the wedding almost only seven months away and talk of starting a family soon, I decided now was a better time than ever to get the business launched, so that by the time Eugene and I are ready to start the family we’ve been talking about, I’m on the path to living my dream of working from home and running my own business. Eugene and I have come up with a name for the company and sometime in January, most likely sometime during my week long vacation; we will be going to get the name trademarked. We have also begun to look into getting a website for my business designed. Eugene created the logo for my business, which I absolutely love. I’m taking the steps needed to get this business up and ready to be launched. I’m shooting to have the business launched by Fall 2012 at the latest.
As of today, Eugene and I are exactly eight months away from getting married! It’s hard to believe that it’s already almost been a year since the day he proposed to me, let alone it’s only eight months until our wedding. Knowing that the wedding is only almost half a year away, this morning when I woke up I had this “it’s crunch time” feeling come over me. There are still so many things that we need to get done and so many things that we still need to put money away for.
For one, we need to finish designing our invitations, RSVP cards, and everything else that we are including in our invitations. Then we still need to take our design to the printer, the same one that printed the Save the Dates that we designed. Finally once everything is back from the printing company, I still need to put all our pocketfold invitations together and address envelopes. All that is what we have left to do for our invitations alone!
I posted earlier about how we still need to book the entertainment for our reception. I’ve been saying for weeks that we need to get this done, yet to be completely honest we haven’t even started looking, this has me worried. My neighbor DJs and I believe he was the DJ at his daughter’s reception, which I believe they did in their backyard. Now, I think my mother has talked to him about possibly being the DJ at our wedding, but I don’t think Eugene likes the idea of that. That may be our only option though if we don’t start setting up interviews for DJs.
Also regarding music and entertainment we still need to figure out what we’re going to do about music for the ceremony. I know that some entertainment companies will also do your ceremony, so that is something we need to look into. I also believe that our ceremony venue has a music collection to choose from. I may have to set up an appointment to meet with Kathy at our venue to discuss this option.
As for the menu, our reception venue has given us copies of their menus and the food choices we have. Eugene, my mother, and I have already gone over the menus and have everything we’d like picked out with a star next to it, so that when we go to discuss our menu with the venue, we’ll have everything we’ve picked right in front of us, so nothing is forgotten. We have everything picked out from what is to be served during the cocktail hour through dessert.
As for the cake, I would like one layer of it to be red velvet. As you may remember from my blog entry about the proposal, Eugene and I were getting ready to eat red velvet cake, ice cream, and drink wine when the proposal took place. One layer of our cake being red velvet would be very meaningful to Eugene and I. I’m not sure what we should do for the rest of the cake. Preferably something that won’t stain my dress is a piece falls on it. We already have someone to bake our cake, my Great-Aunt Gina. We’re so thankful that she said she’d bake our cake when I asked her.
I also need to start thinking about the flowers for my bouquet. As for my bridesmaids, they will be carrying battenburg lace parasol umbrellas that we ordered from Australia. I have one from me too that I’ll use in some of our pictures. All the girls will have white parasols and mine will be another one of the wedding colors. Now back to thinking about the flowers for my bouquet. I’m not sure if I want my bouquet to be all white or if I want hints of pink mixed in. I do know that wrapped around the bouquet I would like either white or pink ribbon with pearls going down it.
Here is what the parasols for the bridesmaids look like:
On top of everything listed above we still need to start thinking about and looking into what we’d like to register for, look for wedding bands, think about where we’d like to stay the night of our wedding, start considering a menu for our Sunday Brunch following the wedding, and much more.
As we grow older our dreams, our motives, and our aspirations evolve into our goals that we so eagerly try to achieve. Whether an individual dreams about being a Doctor, Lawyer, Astronaut, Business Executive, or dreams of something else, every individual has a dream that they’d like to achieve. For the longest time now I’ve been weighing what is most important to me with what is economically feasible in the current economy. With the way that the economy is now a day in order for a family to survive both parents are required to work. Now I’ve worked a 9-5 job and I currently work a nonstop Monday through Friday job and neither are paths I want to take when Eugene and I eventually start a family. Maybe when our future children are older I’d consider a 9-5 job again, but while they’re young it is important to me to be able to be at home with them. That is my dream.
Being a stay at home mom is what I dream of being. I dream of not missing my children meet their milestones. I dream of being there so I don’t miss a single thing. I dream of being the one that is there to comfort them when they’re sad, hug and kiss them when they’re hurt, and to encourage them. I dream of being the “Class Mom” when they are in school, like my mother was when I was in school. I dream about being able to take them to playdates during the day. I dream about being able to participate in “Mommy and Me” classes. I dream about being at home during the day to have pretend tea parties, bake cookies, build with building blocks, ect. I dream about being the one who is down on the floor playing with them. I dream about being part of the PTA. I dream about being the one who is there to encourage a love of learning. I dream about never missing a school function because I had to work. I dream about being at all their recitals and practices. These are dreams that I can’t and won’t give up. These are dreams that I’d regret and not be happy giving up, therefore I will not give them up.
Now, there are individuals who will tell me (and that have told me) that by being a stay at home mom I’m not living up to my full potential and that it’s sad to see my brain go to waste and that it’s sad for someone as smart as I am to waste my brain. I do not feel that being a stay at home mom means that an individual is not living up to their full potential. If I’m living my dream all the while working from home, how is that not living up to my full potential?
I’ve always known that being a wife and mother is what is most important to me. It is honestly the only thing I want out of life. I’ve switches majors from being in Nursing School to being Pre-med, from being Pre-med to Psychology, and from Psychology to Finance. Before I changed my major to finance no other field really offered me the possibility that I might be able to work from home. With a degree in finance there are many options that will help me achieve my dream. One example being, I could do financial consulting from home. Even if I didn’t do financial consulting there is something else that I would like to start doing from home. I would eventually like to run my own “mommy and me” business as a Maternity Concierge offering lactation consultant, doula, and baby and family planning services. I’ve also recently begun to consider opening a shop on Etsy. I’m in the beginning stages of researching this option.
Eugene and I will be getting married August 11th, 2012 and I am seriously exploring and researching options that will allow me to start working from home soon and that will provide me with close to the same income, if not more, than what I am making now. If I have to work two jobs from home in order for me to achieve my dream, then that’s what I’ll do. I’m going to do whatever it takes.
With Eugene and I working all the time it has been hard to find time to sit down and start to look for a DJ for our wedding. I’ve briefly done a few internet searches for DJs in our area or around us but have not had the time to seriously look at different DJs and set up interviews with any. This is something that Eugene and I really need to get a move on in the wedding planning process. If we don’t start interviewing soon then everyone is going to be booked for our date and we won’t have a DJ.
I’ve also recently been thinking about the songs that I’d like played at the wedding. For example, I’ve been thinking about what our first dance song should be and what song my dad and I should dance to for the father daughter dance. I’ve narrowed the song for the father daughter dance down to a couple. I haven’t really found a song that has really interested me for the first dance though. I’m not sure what song I’d like the bridal party to enter the reception to, I was thinking they could enter the reception to the song MY GIRL, doing a little dance, but I’m not for sure. I think that the only song that I’m sure of at the moment is the song I want played when Eugene takes off the garter. I know, typical me right? Of course that’s the only song I know for sure. Hah.
I have also considered Eugene and I having our dance choreographed, but is that an extra expense we really need on top of everything else? If money were not an issue, I would say that we are definitely going to have our dance choreographed, but since having the dance choreographed is not on my top priority list with everything else that I want, I’m not sure that it’s something that really needs to be done.
My top priority relating to wedding planning at the current moment is to get a DJ booked for our date. I’d like to set aside a little time this weekend for Eugene and I to sit down and research different DJ services and packages offered by vendors in our area. Then hopefully we can set up a few meetings for next weekend. If not next weekend, it’d be great to set up the meetings for the week in January that I have off work.
The whole issue of not yet having a DJ booked is making me feel like after being ahead in the planning for so long that I’m starting to fall behind. I always have to be ahead on everything that I’m working on or that I have to do, so feeling like I’m behind is somewhat hard for me. There is honestly nothing that I can do about it though, I work all the time.